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Nor does it mean that you need to find mutual romantic love with anyone else on this planet to feel completely happy and fulfilled. Mgmidget76, you have given me much food for thought, and I sincerely appreciate it. I intend to review this article and tweak it accordingly. I don't agree, that choosing not to date again means my soul is suffering, I am guilty of anything, or it is a prison sentence.
I spent a life time looking for him, and he spent a life time looking for me. When we met and through the 15 years we were together it was magical and like nothing either have ever experienced. Marriage, monogamy, love does not necessarily add up to soul mate — it is something deeper and almost indescribable. From my reference point, when reading this article, is that the author feels there is something wrong with the choice not to date after the loss of your soul mate.
He is gone physically, but our souls are entwined and cannot be separated. If anything his physical death has taught me, is that I was right, about me, him and our life together. So I challenge what exactly you expect me to search for? I already have it. I live my life very much in peace with my choices.
Periodically, I am challenged with my decision not to date, and for the ultimate question I will not allow this article or any person I come across in life to either bully me or guilt me into dating again especially by trying to use "what would he say". Or even hint at the fact without it, that my life serves no purpose. Nor will I allow you to say that my life existence is meaningless because I will not date. I am deeply saddened by this article and feel that personal choices should not be judged in such a harsh manner or the mere indication in a passive-aggressive passage that this is the only way one can be happy in the aftermath of losing their soul mate.
While no article or written word can give you ultimate peace after the loss of your soul mate, I am glad you realize that you are not alone in your grief.
When a Spouse Dies: Coping with the Loss of Your Partner
Some people might think, "She's young. She'll get over it eventually," but that doesn't make it any easier. Just because you are 24 does not mean that your life didn't bottom out after the death of your beloved. And I understand the need to put one's life on hold or "halt" as the case may be. At the same time, your life is gradually inching forward even if you can't feel it doing so just yet.
And the lessons your beloved taught you will someday be a great help when you are called upon to aid another person Thank you for your email and your kind words. My heart goes out to you for the loss of your beloved soul mate.